© Staying in the Day, Staying in the Year...Holidays have a way of holding us in bondage, if we let them!

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Airplanes have a way of transporting us back and forth in life. From one place to another, we board that flight, we sit down, we close our eyes and find ourselves at our destination when the flight lands.

Memories have an uncanny way of doing the exact same thing, especially if pain is a part of the past we try so hard to forget. Whether you are walking in recovery regarding a relationship, or you're on the other side of the relationship ending, holidays still have a way of transporting us to another time in our lives., just as if we've boarded the plane and landed. The downside to that is that the destination the memories take us to are never emotionally healthy for us.

New Year's Eve is an especially difficult time for me, as it taps in to that "old pain" I've often talked about. Just like spiritual markers, the affects of an affair have memory markers that can easily be seen as a ghost haunting us years later. Those, "Do you remember what today is?" thoughts just continue to float in and out of your mind, no matter how driven we are to avoid them.

What choices do we have when the Memory Plane offers to take us on that ride? We have a choice to board the plane, or to say No Thanks! We have the choice instead to make new memories...we have a choice to not remain the "victim". We have the choice to explore what Dignity looks like for us, don't we?

If you're reading this tonight, on the eve of the New Year of 2008, my prayer is that you choose Dignity, and choose not to board the plane of the past.

YOU are worth choosing to live in TODAY...

Stay In The Day.... ~CC